We really didn’t know anything about [domestic abuse], it was not talked about... We went to visit a shelter in one of the suburbs to speak to the person who ran it, had her come to our homes to teach us, we literally knew nothing... We had to start educating teachers, giving talks to teachers, so they could recognize signs. Many rabbis never thought to ask, when they were dealing with couples, is there abuse. As far as they knew there never was. Until you pose that question, people are not going to jump out and say 'I’m abused.' If you ask the right questions, you can get answers, and then start sifting through what you are hearing and get to the point where you realize there is abuse going on.
- Devora Stern

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For a bibliography: Jewish Women's Archive. "Jewish Women's Archive - Women Who Dared - SHALVA (Safe Homes Advice and Legal Aid for Victims of Abuse) on CHALLENGES." <http://jwa.org/exhibits/wwd/jsp/fullAnswer.jsp>.

For a footnote: Jewish Women's Archive, "Jewish Women's Archive - Women Who Dared - SHALVA (Safe Homes Advice and Legal Aid for Victims of Abuse) on CHALLENGES," <http://jwa.org/exhibits/wwd/jsp/fullAnswer.jsp>.