Episode 84: Modern Loss with Rebecca Soffer

For a long time, Rebecca Soffer, co-founder of the website Modern Loss, had been planning to write a guide to coping with grief. Then the pandemic hit, and the need felt especially urgent. So she wrote The Modern Loss Handbook: An Interactive Guide to Moving Through Grief and Building Resilience. The book came out earlier this year. In this episode of Can We Talk?, we speak with Rebecca about all things grief-related: trigger days, bespoke holidays, Jewish grief rituals, and what to say—and not to say—to someone in mourning. 

This episode included Kallaloe by Blue Dot Sessions. 

Released November 22, 2022
  • Cover of The Modern Loss Handbook by Rebecca Soffer. Photo courtesy of the author. 

  • Modern Loss co-founder and author of The Modern Loss Handbook Rebecca Soffer. Credit: Emma Rothenberg-Ware.  

  • Badge for Katie Fisher Day, a bespoke holiday created by Matt Fisher to honor the spirit of his sister Katie, who died in a car accident in her 20s (via katiefisherday.org).



  • Modern Loss Handbook cover
  • Rebecca Soffer Headshot
  • Badge that reads Bake, Send Love, Katie Fisher Day March 12


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