Embarrassed and Embarrassing Mothers
In a video clip posted on the new website for MAKERS: Women Who Make America, writer Judy Blume remembers embarrassing her mother when she discussed female masturbation on Dr. Ruth’s talk show. “My mother was horrified,” Blume recalls many years later.
Perhaps because I was never a guest on national TV, I had few opportunities to embarrass my mother. In any case, it would have taken quite a lot. Like Judy Blume’s mother, mine was my “greatest fan.” Of course that did not deter her from embarrassing me on a regular basis, especially when I was a teenager.
On the eve of Mother’s Day weekend, a Hallmark bonanza long ago downgraded to a Verizon holiday in our family, I think of all the wisdom my unconventional, often embarrassing mother passed on to me and the other young people related to her by blood or friendship.
When my friends’ adoring, cuddly kids began to roll their eyes at everything their mothers said (fathers usually got a pass; mine certainly did), my wise and wacky mother gave them one piece of sterling advice: “Do not take it personally” and one profound insight: “Your mother is never more embarrassing than when you are 13.”
I count often think how lucky I am that my mother has lived long enough for me to recognize how fortunate I was that she did what she thought was right, even if it embarrassed me.
You can view more of Judy Blume’s reminiscences here. They are part of a collection of video interviews that tell the story of the women's movement through the firsthand accounts of the leaders, opponents, and trailblazers who created a new America in the last half-century. This digital platform is the basis for a comprehensive and three-hour documentary that aired on PBS in February 2013 and can be streamed in three parts on the MAKERS website; DVD's can be purchased from shoppbs.org for $24.99.
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Rothman, Ellen K.. "Embarrassed and Embarrassing Mothers." 11 May 2012. Jewish Women's Archive. (Viewed on August 5, 2020) <https://jwa.org/blog/embarrassed-and-embarrassing-mothers>.