I'm am sorry that you are still in such pain and i know something about your type of pain. In Orthodox Judiasm, a person sincerely seeking forgiveness from you must make as much restitution as possible, both emotional and medical bills. If they don't seek forgiveness, or do so inadequately, you don't have to forgive them. In terms of the psychology of 'forgiveness', if you still get flash-backs et al. then they have their claws in you. Let them go, God can burn them in Hell quite nicely without your emotional connection. Let God take vengence, he will even if you do not see it in this world. Have a complete recovery and a better new year.
I'm am sorry that you are still in such pain and i know something about your type of pain. In Orthodox Judiasm, a person sincerely seeking forgiveness from you must make as much restitution as possible, both emotional and medical bills. If they don't seek forgiveness, or do so inadequately, you don't have to forgive them. In terms of the psychology of 'forgiveness', if you still get flash-backs et al. then they have their claws in you. Let them go, God can burn them in Hell quite nicely without your emotional connection. Let God take vengence, he will even if you do not see it in this world. Have a complete recovery and a better new year.