There is also a cultural phenomenon, and I don't know how it is in non-Jewish religious groups, but there is a cultural phenomenon that says that marriage and family are the most important institutions in the community. To some degree, there is a message that it's a womanís responsibility to make the marriage work. So if a woman is in an abusive situation, her first thought is, if this not working, it must be my fault. If she goes to the rabbi, and he had not been educated, his first response is 'go home and try harder.' That cycle had no way to be broken. If we spoke to a rabbi, it was anathema to say that there is a widespread problem [of domestic abuse], that it really isnít the woman's problem, that it's not because she didn't cook supper right, itís something else.
- Hadassah Goodman
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For a bibliography:
Jewish Women's Archive. "Jewish Women's Archive - Women Who Dared - SHALVA (Safe Homes Advice and Legal Aid for Victims of Abuse) on TRADITIONAL ROLES." <http://jwa.org/exhibits/wwd/jsp/fullAnswer.jsp>.
For a footnote:
Jewish Women's Archive, "Jewish Women's Archive - Women Who Dared - SHALVA (Safe Homes Advice and Legal Aid for Victims of Abuse) on TRADITIONAL ROLES," <http://jwa.org/exhibits/wwd/jsp/fullAnswer.jsp>.