I think [my grandmother Dora] is the most significant influence. She just had a capacity to survive and a determination to do things her way. She had a charge account with a cab company in town and she always lived with one of her children, so she certainly didn't have that independence of space, but she was just a force in the community.
And if there were times of doubt I didn't see them. But what I saw was the effect of someone saying, 'There is always a place,' or 'You'll do this for me.' And I sort of get teased by friends who had no intention of doing some of the things they're doing, and they'll say, 'You'll do this for me.'
And my grandmother used to, when you were complaining about something or saying somebody was doing something you couldn't do, she'd look at you and say, 'If you're going to be like them, who's going to be like you?' And I have said that to so many people over time and we laugh, but what I realized is that this was this woman's way of saying, 'You have to do it your own way, but you have to do it.'
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