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  SHALVA (Safe Homes Advice and Legal Aid for Victims of Abuse)
  Domestic Violence Advocates
  Chicago WWD Event 2003
  founded in 1986
  Founded SHALVA, which educates the community about abuse in Jewish homes and provides a full array of services to help survivors heal from abuse.
 
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Founded in 1986 by Hadassah Goodman, Fayge Siegal, Edie Davis, Shulamis Weinfeld, Devora Stern, Batshie Goldfeder, Tamar Friedman, Shoshie Kahn, Chani Friedman, Hedy Well, Risa Gross, Craindell Mannes, and Sarah Rosby as a volunteer grassroots project, SHALVA promotes tranquility and safety in Jewish homes and relationships through prevention and alleviation of domestic abuse.

More than a shelter, SHALVA [Safe Homes Advice and Legal Aid for Victims of Abuse] provides a wide range of counseling, legal, and financial services--including rabbinic counseling and kosher food service--and offers educational programs to the community. When Rebbetzin Hanna Weinberg (a Baltimore Women Who Dared Honoree) first raised the issue of domestic abuse in the Jewish community at a Daughters of Israel meeting in Chicago, she encountered a wall of denial and disbelief. But a small group of young Orthodox women leaders who had witnessed individual cases of domestic violence now had a name to attach to what they had seen. They first had to educate themselves about the particular needs of Jewish victims of domestic abuse. So they visited shelters, consulted with professionals, and brainstormed in endless meetings. Then they had to educate the public, win the support of local rabbis, and raise funds. "People were afraid we were trying to break up Jewish homes. We would walk into a room and everybody walked away," Hadassah Goodman remembers of their early struggle. But they knew they had to act. "Its part of our belief and practice of the Torah that you donít stand by and watch somebody in suffering," explained Fayge Siegal. "That was very ingrained in all of us." Through its education campaign, SHALVA has created a quiet revolution within the Jewish community. With a vibrant Speakers Bureau, newsletter, and professional seminars for community leaders, it has fostered a city-wide dialogue around the previously taboo subject of family violence. From its origins as an idea discussed around kitchen tables by a handful of dedicated women, SHALVA has grown into an agency serving hundreds of families a year and a model for Jewish communities in other cities.

 
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ON JEWISH VALUES
There's a verse in the bible that says "you shall not stand on the blood of your friend" which literally means you donít stand by and watch somebody else in pain or suffering (Fayge Siegal) ...More 
ON FAMILY UPBRINGING
I was never an activist, but my parents have always been the kind of people who have many guests at their Shabbat tables that most donít wantó-not guests to entertain, but people who are disturbed, on the fringes of society, very needy people. (Fayge Siegal) ...More 
ON ROLE MODELS
My father and mother were both community activists, because in a small community, every person makes a difference. (Chani Friedman) ...More 
ON BEING A WOMAN ACTIVIST
Women in orthodoxy have always been involved, for thousands of years, but in private. We were doing this differently... (Hadassah Goodman) ...More 
ON WORK AND FAMILY
My husband used to be teased all the time: 'Your wife's one of the ones involved in SHALVA, well what does that mean about you.' (Fayge Siegal) ...More 
ON TRADITIONAL ROLES
To some degree, there is a message that it's a womanís responsibility to make the marriage work. (Hadassah Goodman) ...More 
ON PATH TO ACTIVISM
I looked out the window and I couldn't believe it. At first I thought she fell and he's trying to help her and then when I saw it, I couldn't believe it. Thatís what got us to think about the idea. (Tamar Friedman) ...More 
ON IMPACT ON WORLD
We've become a model. We've gotten calls from all over the country. (Shoshie Kahn) ...More 
ON IMPACT ON SELF
I had just given birth and we had meetings in my house so that I could nurse the baby. I would be there still for the 1:00 a.m. nursing and everybody would be around. It was marvelous (Shoshie Kahn) ...More 
ON CHALLENGES
We really didnít know anything about [domestic abuse], it was not talked about. (Devora Stern) ...More 
ON ADVICE FOR ACTIVISTS
In truth there was a lot of good fortune in our naiveté. (Hadassa Goodman) ...More 
 
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How to Cite This Page
For a bibliography: Jewish Women's Archive. "JWA - Women Who Dared - Biography SHALVA (Safe Homes Advice and Legal Aid for Victims of Abuse)." <http://jwa.org/exhibits/wwd/jsp/bio.jsp?personID=porgshalva>.

For a footnote: Jewish Women's Archive, "JWA - Women Who Dared - Biography SHALVA (Safe Homes Advice and Legal Aid for Victims of Abuse)," <http://jwa.org/exhibits/wwd/jsp/bio.jsp?personID=porgshalva>.