Expanding Bat Mitzvah
On this day in 1922, Judith Kaplan--daughter of Rabbi Mordechai Kaplan, the founder of Reconstructionist Judaism--was called to the Torah in what is known as the first bat mitzvah ceremony in America. It was a relatively spontaneous event, planned the night before, and she did not read from a Torah scroll but rather out of a printed book, but the event nonetheless charted new territory (not to mention scandalized her grandmothers).
Today, bat mitzvah is much less radical and much more standardized, though what it entails--when it takes place and what the bat mitzvah does to mark her entry into Jewish adulthood--looks different depending on the norms of her community. At the same time, the mainstreaming of bat mitzvah, I would argue, has led the expectations of what this milestone can mean to become somewhat rigid and, sometimes, unimaginative.
So in commemoration of the first bat mitzvah, I'd like to share an excerpt from a poem that JWA recently discovered on its fabulous trip to Santa Fe. Lorraine Schechter's "I Didn't Have a Bas Mitzvah" reminds us that there are many different ways that girls have (and continue to) mark their coming of age. Here's an excerpt (you can read the entire poem here):
...I didn't have a Bas Mitzvah.
That day on 212th Street
shivering in the cold, I was confirmed
without ceremony, without gifts.
I found a voice within that was true
and it urged me to listen.
I needed to obey
even at twelve years old,
even if the Rabbi was hurt,
even courting my parents' wrath,
and tempting God's.
We were so excited to discover this poem because we've recently embarked on our own bat mitzvah initiative and are thinking carefully about how to expand the definition of what constitutes a bat mitzvah so that more girls and their families can mark this milestone in ways that feel personally meaningful, not rote. Bat Mitzvah Interactive will provide web-based activities designed to open up the experience of bat mitzvah for girls and their families to include exploration of family history and role models, taking the bat mitzvah experience beyond the typical focus on a synagogue service and a party.
If you had a bat mitzvah ceremony, what was meaningful to you about it? What fell flat? If you didn't have one, did you mark your transition to Jewish adulthood in some other way? Is there something you wish you had done to celebrate this milestone?